Spawning o_O

[melchar]

Sitting here in the happy afterglow of a massage [purrrrrrrrs] - I find myself pondering parenthood. There are some folks I don't think should own a pet, much less have kids. But then there are people I know who would make marvellous parents and have all this problem actually spawning.

That's just not fair.

I mean, when someone actually -wants- to have kids, _and_ would make great parents, IMHO they should have perfect pregnancies and get to deliver the spawn;et without pain.

Of course when it comes to me, I plan to remain completely spawnless and just look approvingly on my chums who -do- procreate. ^_^

Comments

[victor-cow.livejournal.com]

That's somethig I found odd but understand. Why do really smart and literate people not breed. Continue to spread knowledge and openness. Some of the people that breed only breed ignorance and hate.

I choose not to have a child because I dont wish to pass on my evil genetics of bad memory. Of course now that I think of it I have had lots of head trama. Scares to proove it. Clubed by 2x4 2 handed sword in the face,banging my head on door corners, falling out of trees landing on concrete, falling off slides, and the countless times smacking the back of my head on stair ways. Maybe its ont all genetic LOL

[melchar.livejournal.com]

Well in my case, I remember in vivid detail exactly what sort of hell it was to be a kid. [in my case a smart kid who was mercilessly tormented because I was ... a bit odd.] I would not want to subject any spawn of my own to that sort of misery. Add to this that the 'modern' world has not become a kinder, gentler place in the interim.

And you never get over the torment

[pbsjones.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I'll wake up at 3 in the morning and for some reason start obsessing on some slight from my school days, and actually get tears! Major suckage, that.

I loved the way you would sometimes tilt your head to one side....it shows in your school pictures. And I never would have listened to Benny Goodman if not for you.

Re: And you never get over the torment

[melchar.livejournal.com]

[smiles] Ah yes, my 'what the heck is going on' expression. Thanks for remembering. And 'Sing, sing, sing' is still my favorite jazz piece. Yay Benny!

Now one of the things I remembered about -you- was that you actually seemed to like your family. This was astonishing to me at the time. [and I still only know less than a dozen chums that came from 'functional' families. Must've been nice.

And you had [may still have] a _killer_ laugh!

Re: And you never get over the torment

[pbsjones.livejournal.com]

Yes, yes I do....and there it is! Cackle cackle...

[kaichi-satake.livejournal.com]

Smart people don't necessarily have smart children, just as stupid people don't necessarily have stupid children. I am proof of that. My parents are bigoted, superstitious, not very bright, and often downright hateful. I'm nothing like them, and they resent me for it. I chose to not have children because I know I can't take care of them, properly. Smart people are more likely to be more responsible about having kids than stupid people are, and that includes understanding your own ability to take care of said children.

If someone wants children, they should be able to have them. The only time I would say that should not apply is for those who abuse children. Those people should never have kids, because that is far worse for the future of humanity than just being stupid or hateful. Stupidity and hatred are closely related, and are willfully chosen attitudes, whereas an abused person does not choose to be damaged by the abuse. It's much more difficult to overcome abuse than it is to overcome ignorance.

[pbsjones.livejournal.com]

Victor_cow said: "Why do really smart and literate people not breed."

Hey, I had my two! Thank goodness they got my brains....

Someone once told me that children survive in spite of their parents. I certainly did.

I admire people who recognize that they either shouldn't or don't want to have children for the childrens' sake! I heard someone once say about such a person, "That's so selfish!" Uh, yeah, because bringing a new life into the world because someone else thinks you should is a good idea?

I won't say I'm the best mom, but I've enjoyed (enviously) seeing my daughter grow up to be the person I would have been if my parents/stepfiends hadn't been idiots and, well, downright evil. It's too bad we can't tell which are the bad ones before they start popping out pups.

On the other hand, I'm trying to picture a bunch of little Melchars running around...frighteningly cute, if you catch my meaning!

[melchar.livejournal.com]

Now -that's- a scary thought. Equally scary is my lil sister: could be a clone of me [only with dad's red hair & brown eyes], but she stayed cute - and charming - and very social .... and did not seem to get the brain cells.

So apparently you can have smart/geeky, or you can have popular/cuter - but not both ^_^

My luck would be, if I spawned, they'd get all of my defects and deficits and none of the good qualities.

So be delighted when you spawn well!